A divorce is a life-altering experience. Accepting that the relationship is over, and moving on to a new phase of single life does take some adjustment. However there is light at the end of this tunnel, and your divorce will soon pave way for healthier relationships and better life ahead. Until you reach that place, healing from the pain, hurt, stress and trauma that you have gone through, with the end of the marriage is the most important step ahead. Here are a few little things you can do to help you get through this difficult phase.

Change Your Name

Changing your name after divorce can be the first step towards acceptance and moving on. Your married name is often a harsh reminder of your ended marriage, and letting go of it, will be a liberating change. A simple deed poll and a few documentation changes are all it takes to free yourself from a name that binds you to a hurtful past.

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Take Care Of Yourself

In this trying time, it is easy to let go, and rely on unhealthy lifestyle as a coping mechanism or easier way out. However, this will cause you more distress and compromise your health in the long run. Try to eat a balanced diet, get some activity and adopt a healthy lifestyle. Better health will also help improve your moods and deal with your feelings better.

Set Yourself A Routine

You might feel flabbergasted with the sheer change in your daily life that the divorce comes with. In order to get through this, it is a good idea to set your daily life on a fixed routine or schedule that you can follow. This gives you a purpose and relieves you from the stress of not knowing when to do what, and thus, preventing you from lagging behind at work, appointments and other things you need done.

Choose Realistic Goals

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A feeling of aimlessness and disorientation is common among those going through a divorce. In order to navigate this phase more effectively, set a number of realistic and achievable short-term goals for coping. It can be anything ranging from remembering to eat a fruit everyday to definite career landmarks you plan on hitting.

Cut Some Slack

It is important to understand that this is your time to heal and grow, and not a challenge to be productive. You are going through a major change in life, it is okay to cut yourself some slack, and not be too hard on yourself. Heal at your pace, and do not count or compare progress. The process of grieving is subjective, and extremely personal. What might not appear as a progress to you might just be a revelation you just need to wait for.

Explore New Hobbies

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Hobbies are a great way to fill in free time, emptiness, and explore yourself and your interests. They are also excellent in fostering renewed hope and positivity. It can help you channel your anger, hurt or negative feelings, and offer you a healthy channel of expression. Take some time and explore hobbies that intrigue your interest. You might be surprised to find a hidden talent or develop a passion for a lifetime.

Indulge Yourself

You deserve a world of happiness and if there’s no one else to pamper you, it is high time, you start doing so! Take the vacation you have been postponing, buy yourself the expensive gift that you have always craved for, or order yourself the fancy dessert that you save for special occasions. A little indulgence will go a long way in improving your quality of happiness.

Reach Out

Bottling up your feelings and suffering in silence is no brave thing to do. Instead reach out to friends and family for company and support. Look into forming meaningful relationships with other people. Join a local or online support group to help you with some insight, perspective, and much needed support.

Seek Professional Help

One of the best ways to heal from a divorce is to seek professional help. A counsellor or therapist is trained to listen, help process your feelings, deal with trauma and teach you to develop positive and healthy coping mechanisms to get through this difficult time.

Set Visitation Schedules

If you have children or shared pets with your ex-spouse, make sure to set up a mutually-informed and agreed-upon visitation schedule. Designate chaperones or intermediaries, if you want to avoid meeting your ex. This will help coordinate the visitations seamlessly without causing you further tension. A clear schedule will prevent confusion for both parties, as well as set clear boundaries for the children or pets, thus, protecting them from any more stress.

A divorce is the end of a relationship, but also the beginning of a whole new phase of life. The possibilities ahead of you are boundless and even though it might seem terrible right now, you will get through this. All it takes is a few little steps towards healing, and life will soon lead you to better places and happier days.

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